Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt personally victimized by a “must be nice” comment. (If you don’t get this Mean Girls reference you can’t sit with us.) (ba dum tis.)
Does it make your arm hair just stand up because it does mine.
Must be nice comments have a certain theme to them and to be honest there’s a certain theme to the kind of people that make them.
They’re usually made in reference to something another person wishes they had/have. Wouldn’t you agree? It’s anything from getting off at 3:00 on a Tuesday, or something as simple as being able to enjoy a meat other than chicken. Beyond just these two you hear comments made in reference to vacations, clothes, cars, and beauty routines. PA-LEASE.
I think it’s safe to make the assumption that if you’re reading this you live in America. If you live in America you literally have every opportunity that the person next to you has. If you’re envious of getting off at 3:00 you can ask for a schedule change or even go find a new job. If you’re tired of eating chicken, and being able to only afford chicken, you can change that as well by either getting another job, better job or a combination of the two.
Do you see my running theme here? You can change your stars, it can be nice for every American…
When you go and make a comment like that I don’t think that people really understand the effect it really has on someone who works hard for nice things or experiences. If you’re one of these people you probably feel guilty at times for having the opportunity to be able to do something nice. You’ve probably hid things you should be proud about for the simple reason to not get these kinds of comments. I know I’m right because I do the exact same thing…
It hurts when these comments are made and I can also guarantee that you’ll be thinking about it long after the comment was made.
Now I could go on about all the “must be nice” things business owners don’t get to enjoy but I’m not going to do that. For one it really wouldn’t matter, and for another comparing your life to another just takes away your own energy.
I feel that bringing these kinds of things to attention or even writing about it for someone else that feels guilty for having nice things, may one day lead to them disappearing altogether. One can only know and one can only hope.
Victim of “must be nice” comments.